SERIOUSLY THIS IS A THOUSAND TIMES MORE FUCKING LIKELY
Hi! Thanks for the question. I do understand where your concern comes from; however, this is not a rape case. They started dating when she was 17....
It’s fascinating…the things that I am supposed to be “flattered” by. People practically demand that I be flattered by certain mistreatment, injustice and oppression, and then question my level of “sensitivity” or even my intelligence when I am not flattered.
You’re using one experience to do two things:
- misgender that person after she told you she was a woman
- say “well I don’t want men in the...
Let us also remember that fat is not only physical but is also contextual.
In the context of the big old wide general world, a smaller fat person might not be “really” fat.
However in the smaller context of their personal world, or their culture, or their family, or where they live they might live a fat fat fatty life. Or they might be like me and not look all that fat but in many other areas of life (medical care, harassment etc) may indeed be living the life of a really fat person.
So before declaring someone too inbetween or not really fat please remember (if you don’t want to read the link) this:
I think that insisting that on sight someone is not really fat or not really all that fat or can’t POSSIBLY be living a life as a fat person we need to give people space to tell us where they are coming from.
Tumblr isn’t really an ideal space for this but, I wanted to mention it after seeing a lot of OMG THIS PERSON IS NOT FAT type stuff across my dash yesterday and today.