SERIOUSLY THIS IS A THOUSAND TIMES MORE FUCKING LIKELY
Hi! Thanks for the question. I do understand where your concern comes from; however, this is not a rape case. They started dating when she was 17....
It’s fascinating…the things that I am supposed to be “flattered” by. People practically demand that I be flattered by certain mistreatment, injustice and oppression, and then question my level of “sensitivity” or even my intelligence when I am not flattered.
Seeing so many people commenting about how my before / after photos was me pushing “health” over weight loss. I realize that most people are going to read it in that manner but the frustration over being able to not get stuck in healthist arguments makes everything feel overwhelming sometimes.
This was a response to someone’s comments about this post;
My post was critiquing the kind of framing of bodies when this form of visual representation of fat phobia is created. It was also a good example of the Protestant ethic in action, especially with everyone commenting how after bodies are the result of “hard work.” Puritanical and capitalist demands on bodies that push hard work, frugality and high levels of self-discipline is inherently harmful. It frames all bodies, not just fat ones, as ONLY having worth if they are highly productive contributing members of society. Placing further emphasis on the expectation that individuals conform their bodies into what society considers to be highly productive bodies that are thin, able bodied and disease free.
Really though. This is about deconstructing our experiences through critique of society. This is about resistance to conformity.
Putting together a guest lecture on personal autonomy, fat embodiment, thin privilege and deconstructing health. Yeah fuckers we talk about this stuff off the internets.
Thin privilege is being taken seriously as a feminist.
If I, a fat woman, say that women should be treated equally and that looks shouldn’t be what people stress so much, people assume that it’s because I’m fat and want people to look past that. (I do, but that’s besides the point.) And if I don’t want to shave my legs or wear makeup, I’m seen as lazy or gross, while a thin girl would be making a statement.
This the part where I admit that I have never bought or worn anything that says “this is what a feminist looks like” because I’m afraid of feeding critics examples of what they already say. Feminists are all fat and ugly or all feminists are fat lesbians. I don’t think I’m ugly and I don’t think being fat is bad but I know I’m not conventionally attractive and I’m just terrified of bringing that shit down my own head. So it’s probably a giant example of huge insecurities that have internalized but yeah. Here we go.
I really believe that a blog, organization or anyone who labels themselves “body positive” but doesn’t believe thin privilege exists is doing a disservice to themselves as well as their followers. I have found a ton of bloggers who talk about privilege that have an issue with using the framework of thin privilege because they believe it takes away from white and male privilege or somehow compares the two. The best response that I have had to me posing this question was from the moderator from This is Thin Privilege who told me that in order for discrimination to happen to one group, there has to be an equal action (aka privilege) given to another. This does not mean white, male, straight, or thin privilege is comparable but it gives oppressed people a framework to understand their experiences, while also allowing for people with privilege to understand the space they take up. Understanding straight, white and able bodied privilege gives me context to the privilege I have because part of privilege is not knowing I have privilege. It gives me language that having privilege allows me to ignore.
The reason that I think anyone who labels themselves a “body positive” blog but refuses to discuss how fatness is political and fat people are discriminated against are doing a diservice to their followers is because they are ignoring the experiences of their followers. It would be like me only speaking as a white, straight, cis, able-bodied female and only posting about experiences like my own. By not discussing transphobia, racism, ableism, homophobia etc I am erasing the experiences of fat people who have different experiences than me. If a blog is dedicated to making all bodies accepted, not just to an arbitrary bullshit place like most body positive spaces seem to do, then they need to make space for discussions that talk about different experiences. That also means talking about all of the other forms of oppression not just white, cis, thin, straight, able bodied experiences.
Why people stay away from it probably does have a lot to do with not wanting their followers to feel alienated, but also talking about thin privilege brings in a political element to most body positive blogs that I don’t see on a regular basis. Most blogs are dedicated to each individual and not a discussion about systemic oppression. This happens in many places, including fat positive spaces specifically. While being fat positive or body positive within itself can be a form of resistance actually discussing experiences with discrimination is a totally different form of resistance to fat stigma. It makes fat discrimination a reality giving people words and context to understand how their experiences are similar or different. It also gives specific instances or situations that people can fight back against.
People have a really strong reaction when they first hear about privilege, most of the time it is anger because they believe that all of their traumatic experiences a negated due to their privilege when in reality all privilege checklists try to do is make people understand difference.