#notyourgoodfatty

Fatties of tumblr. Come on twitter and tweet under the hashtag  about all of the things you WON’T be doing to make other people more comfortable with your body.

I was interviewed by Fat Girl Food Squad! Check it out! Their website makes me hungry. *drooools

I was interviewed by Anahvia Taiyib for her blog Taiyib Manifested! Make sure to check it out in the future. She is going to be interviewing some really amazing activists whose names you should already know like Suey Park, Mikki Kendall, and Sophia Banks. An interview with Jamie Broadnax who started Black Girl Nerds is already up.

Anonymous asked: As a person who's made it my goal to make myself healthy, I feel like I should share this. I'm all for fat activism, but I think there needs to be a PSA about health. Being over weight is perfectly fine, but being HEALTHY is the most important. Trying to get on the right track in health will change your life. As someone who's been overweight I can vouch for the change it makes in your life & I think it's important to share this. It's changed my mood and I'm a happier person. Health is key. Peace

No it’s really not. What you want to do in your life is fine but shaming people for not performing health or living in their body the way you think they should is crap. If you were actually interested in health you would be focusing on creating a society where health behaviors are accessible to all people. That happens by removing social and economic barriers to those behaviors by ending discrimination / stigma marginalized people experience. Not just fat people but all marginalized people are impacted physically and mentally by discrimination / stigma.

People that only want to focus on individuals transcending the constraints on their life to “be healthy” is not only damaging but completely ignorant of the reality that people live in. Assuming that fat people need to focus on being healthy when discussing fat politics also ignores the harm discrimination and stigma does to fat people, with true access to health behaviors becoming a reality when we are no longer marginalized. Not facing discrimination, economic hardship etc will drastically change the ability of people to engage with health behaviors.

A more productive society is a more equal society.

When I talk about health behaviors I not only mean having access to fresh foods and places to move your body but also access to stigma free medicine, including treatment and testing. You can have access to all three of those things and still face significant barriers if you don’t have the time or ability use them. Constraints such as physical ability, stress level, family dynamics, class status etc also changes someone’s ability to engage in those behaviors. Even someone who doesn’t have those constraints on their own life should not have their humanity given to them on the conditional basis that they perform health to make other people comfortable.

I was on Michigan Radio’s show Stateside talking about Melissa McCarthy’s Elle cover as well as the state of fat activism in Michigan. From the interview,

Four covers were shot with four different stars: Reese Witherspoon, Shailene Woodley, Penelope Cruz and Melissa McCarthy.

Witherspoon wore a fitted black dress, Woodley wore a swimsuit and Cruz recently gave birth to her second baby, so hers was a close-up face shot. Curvy, full-figured McCarthy was swathed and bundled up in a big coat.

That led to criticism that McCarthy was covered up because she’s full-figured — though it should be noted that Melissa McCarthy herself said she was glad to be a part of the cover.

But it does raise the issue of society’s attitudes toward overweight or obese people.

I’m pretty happy with the interview but I do wish I had more time to talk in depth about other fat women in the media who are also taking up space in the way Melissa does. Specifically women like Queen Latifah, Amber Riley and Gabourey Sidibe, among others.

You can listen to the full interview at the link above.

Special K has had a long history of stealing from body positive activists, especially in the last two years when they stole Marilyn Wann’s Yay! Scales™ for their More than a Number campaign.

They have now done it to me. I started making body positive measuring tapes back in the beginning of 2011 when I was running Love Your Body Detroit. They just came out with a new advertising using the same thing, but this time to sell their crappy weight loss corn flakes. 

Below you can see my handmade body positive measuring tape that I made to go into fat rights tool kits that were to raise money for LYBD. 

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"There is no getting outside of the entanglement of relations of power and subjectification. Given this, it is necessary for those engaged in fat politics to look critically at the practices that we take up as a challenge to fat-phobia. These very practices become, in their own way, constitutive elements not only of the self but of our movement. Following Clare (2002) and The Queer Commons, I suggest that a resistance to and disruption of the normal – ‘that center against which every one of us is judged and compared’ (Clare 2002: para. 23) – makes space for a more fully embodied means of opposition, a more critical form of identification and a more inclusive mode of organizing."

Disrupting normal: Toward the ‘ordinary and familiar’ in fat politicsZoe ̈ Meleo-Erwin 

fatbodypolitics:

I will be on KPFA 94.1 talking about fat experience and how fatness intersects with disability tomorrow afternoon, 4/5, at 2:30 pm pacific time or 5:30 pm eastern. If you are not on the West Coast you can listen live online. http://www.kpfa.org/pushing-limits
If anything you can listen to me try to give coherent responses to a lot of different questions.

In case you missed it you can listen to the full interview at this link.
I had a really good time and I was able to get a lot of information out in a very short time. YAY for speed talking.

fatbodypolitics:

I will be on KPFA 94.1 talking about fat experience and how fatness intersects with disability tomorrow afternoon, 4/5, at 2:30 pm pacific time or 5:30 pm eastern. If you are not on the West Coast you can listen live online. http://www.kpfa.org/pushing-limits

If anything you can listen to me try to give coherent responses to a lot of different questions.

In case you missed it you can listen to the full interview at this link.

I had a really good time and I was able to get a lot of information out in a very short time. YAY for speed talking.

(via friendofmarilyn)

I will be on KPFA 94.1 talking about fat experience and how fatness intersects with disability tomorrow afternoon, 4/5, at 2:30 pm pacific time or 5:30 pm eastern. If you are not on the West Coast you can listen live online. http://www.kpfa.org/pushing-limits
If anything you can listen to me try to give coherent responses to a lot of different questions.

I will be on KPFA 94.1 talking about fat experience and how fatness intersects with disability tomorrow afternoon, 4/5, at 2:30 pm pacific time or 5:30 pm eastern. If you are not on the West Coast you can listen live online. http://www.kpfa.org/pushing-limits

If anything you can listen to me try to give coherent responses to a lot of different questions.

Before / Between / After

In the spirit of my Before / After post I bring you this reading of “2 BY 4 : A Fat Zine” by FATTY FATTY Productions. Check out their etsy store and get this cool handmade fat positive zine created by a super awesome fat positive couple. (One of whom is a SUPER awesome fat studies scholar)

red3blog:

Fat shamers routinely mistake fat bigots’ attempts at parody for actual Fat Activism.

Because they really don’t care about what we are actually saying.

red3blog:

Fat shamers routinely mistake fat bigots’ attempts at parody for actual Fat Activism.

Because they really don’t care about what we are actually saying.

Putting together a guest lecture on personal autonomy, fat embodiment, thin privilege and deconstructing health. Yeah fuckers we talk about this stuff off the internets. 

"As much as we get praised for loving our full bodies, many young white women would rather be dead than wear a size 14. They nod their heads and say how great it is that we black women can embrace our curves, but they don’t want to look like us. They don’t adopt our presumably more generous beauty ideals. White women have even told me how lucky black women are that our men love and accept our bodies the way they are. I’ve never heard a white woman say that she’s going to take her cue from black women and gain a few pounds, however. In a way it is patronizing, because they’re basically saying, “It’s OK for you to be fat, but not me. You’re black. You’re different.”

In this society we have completely demonized fat. How many times have you had to tell a friend of yours that she isn’t fat? How many times has she had to tell you the same thing? Obviously, when people have unrealistic perceptions of themselves it should not go unnoticed, but in this act, while we are reassuring our friends, we put down every woman who is overweight. The demonization of fat and the ease of associating black women with fat exposes yet another opportunity for racism. If we really want to start talking more honestly about all women’s relationships with our bodies, we need to start asking the right questions."

Sirena J. Riley, “The Black Beauty Myth” (via wretchedoftheearth)

Why white fat activists need to sit the fuck down and shut the fuck up with their fucking racist ass “Black men LOVE fat women” bullshit.

NO THE FUCK THEY DON’T.

Fat Black women are DESPISED. We are always blamed for the vitriol that we receive, because Mammy deserves to be hated when she dares try to come out of her station.

(via sourcedumal)

I think also that just because we have weight standards that aren’t as restrictive as whites, it doesn’t mean their isn’t restriction for fat Black women or that they never get ridiculed. Their is a lot of fucked up ways of teasing fat Black women within the community white people wouldn’t even recognize. And when black men treat white fat women differently than black fat women its saying lots

(via strugglingtobeheard)

White fat people have been told it’s not that Black People or indeed, Working class people of all races including White aren’t replete with fat hate, it’s just that it hasn’t reached the level of boundless hysteria that it has reached in the mainstream. WMP especially have imbued it with a false air of legitimacy through their hold on science and medicine.

There’s no one to challenge or interrupt this view. That can only come from the critical scrutiny of others such as themselves. And that is why something as weak as the ‘obesity’ mess has managed to advance this far.

That seems a difficult message to grasp, perhaps because WMP, or MP in general are supposed to be innately intelligent, balanced and rational. To such an extent that reports of their actual behaviour have to be altered to fit this self image.

(via bumsquash)

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Speaking Hypothetically

Yesterday there was a post floating around on tumblr that was a drawing of a fat disabled woman with the signs “Fuck Diets” covering her naked flesh. What many people saw was a person rejecting diet culture and the shame that comes along with not only being fat but also being disabled. Something that was suppose to be positive was turned into a conflict due to a few trolls that wanted to decide that this fictional person was disabled due to an illness not being taken care of. I find it pointless to discuss the semantics of the whole conversation because I find the idea that people are putting a label of disease on a fat body, a disabled and fictional drawing of a body ludicrous.  It is truthfully the sign of how much fat stigma is alive in our society that even a drawing meant to be positive and show body diversity is turned into something it isn’t.

What I want to talk about is the reaction from the people who were trashing the drawing by saying that their response was a hypothetical situation the drawing could be depicting. When people say that they are speaking hypothetically what they really mean is that they are not talking about you, so you don’t have the right to find what they are saying offensive. This kind of response to a push back against negative comments is not only meant to try and negate the emotional reaction of those people who are offended, but is also a way to try and silence the ability of anyone who takes issue with the person’s harmful stance. By saying that they are talking about a hypothetical situation it also makes it so that a person who has had their own body read in a similar fashion has no space to speak out, because clearly they are not speaking about actual situations that have happened to actual people.

Attacking a drawing, that doesn’t depict a real person, gives people who are blinded by their own prejudice an ability to try and remove their own responsibility that is connected to the harm their words cause. The issue really isn’t that they are reading a drawing of a person that was meant to be positive, but that they are trying to negate the reality that their words have been said about real people, with real bodies that live in reality. Their lives and body should never be used as a hypothetical situation.

When fat disabled bodies are read as a being the result of an inability to take care of ones self that is not only fat phobia but also ableism in action. When someone sees a fat disabled body and automatically assumes that the state of their body is the end result of mismanaged care that is directly related to growing up in a society where you are socialized with fat phobic thinking. We are continually taught fat people have X illness and that illness results in X state of body, then our minds fill in the blank. Without challenging social conditioning no one is able to break away from the fat stigma that is so ingrained within our society.

By not breaking away from prejudice, people create these hypothetical situations while forgetting that there are real people with real bodies who have and continue to deal with people who do not think hypothetically about the way they read their body. All of us learn to read bodies in a way that doesn’t allow for us accept difference in others but question why someone else’s body exists as it does. Instead of allowing for bodies to merely exist many react with fear and push back trying to understand through ableism and fat phobia, speaking in hypothetical’s to try and protect their own discomfort.

Fucking STOP.

If ANOTHER person tries to tell me that being called mean names or told to eat a sandwich is the same as government backed campaigns to make fat people no longer exist I’m going to blow a fucking gasket. Body shaming is horrible no matter who it happens to but the idea that people are comparing words to numerous industries that are trying to find a “cure” for fatness is ridiculous. I’m going to need all of the readers of Bitch who wrote on their facebook page about this story to sit down and shut the fuck up when discussing a girl who seriously believes that girls are taught being fat is the ideal and started a kickstarter campaign to make a book that looks like every fucking magazine in the history of forever.

I would really love for someone to find an industry whose main purpose is to find a cure for thinness. If you answer with the food industry you have already failed. Go and find out who owns Jenny Craig asshat.