bigfatfeminist:

so I answered this question on my personal blog, but it absolutely belongs here.
(tw: discussion of ED, rape, rape culture, depression/mental illness, and hate speech)
well anon, I give a shit! and if you care about other -isms, you probably should too. fat people (or really, people of any body type outside the “norm” as determined by the media — intersectionality, yo) are stigmatized to the point where:
hate speech and flat-out nastiness toward fat people is normalized, which is dehumanizing. people feel entitled to tell fat people they shouldn’t eat something, or should eat less, or should exercise more, or that what they’re wearing isn’t flattering, and all manner of things that are actually pretty inexcusable! moreover, people feel entitled to say (and do say, all the time) that fat people are disgusting, lazy, gluttonous, stupid, and/or unhygienic, which is simply untrue. and these things are legitimized and standardized by our culture. this is all in the name of Being Concerned About Their Health but that’s actually a load of crap — someone else’s health isn’t your business, you can’t tell if someone is healthy if you’re looking at them, and unhealthy people deserve just as much respect and dignity as healthy people regardless.
fat people, especially fat people who are not cis men, who are sexual assault survivors are significantly less likely to report their assault, because they’re told they’re wildly undesirable pretty much every day. in a culture where rape is misrepresented as a crime of passion or misunderstanding, fat people are scoffed at for reporting. who’d want to fuck a fat girl, after all? 
fat people are encouraged in eating disorders and eating disordered behavior. generally, most people see any effort fat people make to lose weight as a good thing, even if those behaviors would cause serious alarm if performed by a thin person. I can speak firsthand about this - my EDNOS went undiagnosed for years because most of my doctors thought that any effort for me to lose weight was a good effort, even if it meant I was hurting myself. the other night I was watching TV and a diet advertisement came on for a product that had the tagline “Eating less never looked so beautiful.” seriously, what the hell?
speaking of, fat people are routinely misdiagnosed and mistreated by the medical community. I once went in to my university’s gyno to get a yeast infection addressed, and was told that I’d developed it because my thighs touched.* Melissa McEwan of Shakesville says it better than I ever could:

No, there is not a documented epidemic of brutal murders of fat people for being fat, but there is a documented epidemic of failure to provide life-saving healthcare: Google will easily help you find stories of fat people who died while emergency crews laughed at their weight and appearance, of fat people who were told they should lose weight to fix problems actually caused by blood clots, cancer, internal injuries, infections, and myriad other problems that later killed them, because their doctors couldn’t see past their fat to properly treat them.  Google will also easily help you find stories of medical equipment that cannot accommodate fat bodies, of anesthetists who accidentally kill fat people in surgery, of doctors who prescribe wrong doses for fat bodies, of drug trials that make no attempt to include fat patients.  Google will also easily help you find stories of fat people who did not seek life-saving healthcare because they had been so viciously fat-shamed by doctors their whole lives that they had given up hope of finding sensitive and caring providers who would treat them.
Fat people die because of fat hatred ALL THE TIME.

fat people are subject to a myriad of microaggressions that, in aggregate, signal to them that they are not worthy of “normal” society. plus-sized clothing is harder to find and often costs more and is not as well-made. safety equipment doesn’t fit fat people. fat people are expected to constantly apologize for themselves and be actively looking to lose weight, and therefore are not allowed to be happy or to like themselves (and fat people who are happy, who like themselves, or who feel sexy are relentlessly ridiculed and cut down for it). articles about the “obesity epidemic” are accompanied by photos of fat people where their heads are cropped off, which is a standard way of objectifying and dehumanizing. “fat” has become shorthand for “lazy, gluttonous, stupid, unhygienic, disgusting.” I could go on, but the blog This Is Thin Privilege has many other examples.
overweight teenage girls are much more likely than their average-weight peers to be depressed, suicidal, or to commit self-harm. this is because they’re only offered images of happy thin people and one-dimensional, unhappy fat people. when all you see in the media are people who look like you that hate themselves, or people who used to look like you to whom the best thing in their lives was no longer looking like you, you don’t expect happiness.
and not for nothing, but people are making a LOT of money off of this “obesity epidemic” crap and keeping people from focusing on the actual problems behind said “epidemic.” the people who benefit from keeping everyone scared of being fat? the billion-dollar diet/weight-loss industry, plus the companies who get a LOT of money from government food subsidies for corn, in particular. they want people at large to avoid thinking critically about why people in America are steadily gaining weight, because the answers will lose them a lot of money. classism, wage gaps, and poverty play a huge role — if you’re a single parent working multiple jobs, you don’t have a lot of time or money to prepare fresh meals all the time, and there is a correlation between poverty and weight. ever heard of a food desert? google that sucker, anon. shit’s whack.
you should give a shit about fatphobia because fatphobia is mad intersectional (body politics apply to a lot, a lot, a lot of people, not just fat people) and because it’s mostly manufactured to keep you thinking about “actually important things.”
not for nothing, but if you’re worried about the quality of life of oppressed people, you should also worry about the fact that 1 out of 10 parents would abort a child if it was genetically likely to be fat** and 1 out of 3 people would rather walk away from their marriage than be fat ***
apparently, fat is the most terrifying thing you could possibly be in American culture. and how fucked up is that?
* yeast infections do not happen because your thighs touch.** sauce*** even more sauce

bigfatfeminist:

so I answered this question on my personal blog, but it absolutely belongs here.

(tw: discussion of ED, rape, rape culture, depression/mental illness, and hate speech)

well anon, I give a shit! and if you care about other -isms, you probably should too. fat people (or really, people of any body type outside the “norm” as determined by the media — intersectionality, yo) are stigmatized to the point where:

hate speech and flat-out nastiness toward fat people is normalized, which is dehumanizing. people feel entitled to tell fat people they shouldn’t eat something, or should eat less, or should exercise more, or that what they’re wearing isn’t flattering, and all manner of things that are actually pretty inexcusable! moreover, people feel entitled to say (and do say, all the time) that fat people are disgusting, lazy, gluttonous, stupid, and/or unhygienic, which is simply untrue. and these things are legitimized and standardized by our culture. this is all in the name of Being Concerned About Their Health but that’s actually a load of crap — someone else’s health isn’t your business, you can’t tell if someone is healthy if you’re looking at them, and unhealthy people deserve just as much respect and dignity as healthy people regardless.

fat people, especially fat people who are not cis men, who are sexual assault survivors are significantly less likely to report their assault, because they’re told they’re wildly undesirable pretty much every day. in a culture where rape is misrepresented as a crime of passion or misunderstanding, fat people are scoffed at for reporting. who’d want to fuck a fat girl, after all? 

fat people are encouraged in eating disorders and eating disordered behavior. generally, most people see any effort fat people make to lose weight as a good thing, even if those behaviors would cause serious alarm if performed by a thin person. I can speak firsthand about this - my EDNOS went undiagnosed for years because most of my doctors thought that any effort for me to lose weight was a good effort, even if it meant I was hurting myself. the other night I was watching TV and a diet advertisement came on for a product that had the tagline “Eating less never looked so beautiful.” seriously, what the hell?

speaking of, fat people are routinely misdiagnosed and mistreated by the medical community. I once went in to my university’s gyno to get a yeast infection addressed, and was told that I’d developed it because my thighs touched.* Melissa McEwan of Shakesville says it better than I ever could:

No, there is not a documented epidemic of brutal murders of fat people for being fat, but there is a documented epidemic of failure to provide life-saving healthcare: Google will easily help you find stories of fat people who died while emergency crews laughed at their weight and appearance, of fat people who were told they should lose weight to fix problems actually caused by blood clots, cancer, internal injuries, infections, and myriad other problems that later killed them, because their doctors couldn’t see past their fat to properly treat them.  Google will also easily help you find stories of medical equipment that cannot accommodate fat bodies, of anesthetists who accidentally kill fat people in surgery, of doctors who prescribe wrong doses for fat bodies, of drug trials that make no attempt to include fat patients.  Google will also easily help you find stories of fat people who did not seek life-saving healthcare because they had been so viciously fat-shamed by doctors their whole lives that they had given up hope of finding sensitive and caring providers who would treat them.

Fat people die because of fat hatred ALL THE TIME.

fat people are subject to a myriad of microaggressions that, in aggregate, signal to them that they are not worthy of “normal” society. plus-sized clothing is harder to find and often costs more and is not as well-made. safety equipment doesn’t fit fat people. fat people are expected to constantly apologize for themselves and be actively looking to lose weight, and therefore are not allowed to be happy or to like themselves (and fat people who are happy, who like themselves, or who feel sexy are relentlessly ridiculed and cut down for it). articles about the “obesity epidemic” are accompanied by photos of fat people where their heads are cropped off, which is a standard way of objectifying and dehumanizing. “fat” has become shorthand for “lazy, gluttonous, stupid, unhygienic, disgusting.” I could go on, but the blog This Is Thin Privilege has many other examples.

overweight teenage girls are much more likely than their average-weight peers to be depressed, suicidal, or to commit self-harm. this is because they’re only offered images of happy thin people and one-dimensional, unhappy fat people. when all you see in the media are people who look like you that hate themselves, or people who used to look like you to whom the best thing in their lives was no longer looking like you, you don’t expect happiness.

and not for nothing, but people are making a LOT of money off of this “obesity epidemic” crap and keeping people from focusing on the actual problems behind said “epidemic.” the people who benefit from keeping everyone scared of being fat? the billion-dollar diet/weight-loss industry, plus the companies who get a LOT of money from government food subsidies for corn, in particular. they want people at large to avoid thinking critically about why people in America are steadily gaining weight, because the answers will lose them a lot of money. classism, wage gaps, and poverty play a huge role — if you’re a single parent working multiple jobs, you don’t have a lot of time or money to prepare fresh meals all the time, and there is a correlation between poverty and weight. ever heard of a food desert? google that sucker, anon. shit’s whack.

you should give a shit about fatphobia because fatphobia is mad intersectional (body politics apply to a lot, a lot, a lot of people, not just fat people) and because it’s mostly manufactured to keep you thinking about “actually important things.”

not for nothing, but if you’re worried about the quality of life of oppressed people, you should also worry about the fact that 1 out of 10 parents would abort a child if it was genetically likely to be fat** and 1 out of 3 people would rather walk away from their marriage than be fat ***

apparently, fat is the most terrifying thing you could possibly be in American culture. and how fucked up is that?

* yeast infections do not happen because your thighs touch.
** sauce
*** even more sauce

Giant trigger warning: harassment, anti-fat hatred

thisisthinprivilege:

flameagainsttheworld:

: thisisthinprivilege: Thin privilege is not having the doctor tell you…

blood-bambi:

thisisthinprivilege:

Thin privilege is not having the doctor tell you that you’re going to die by the age of 30 if you don’t do something about your weight when the reason you are there is for an ear infection.

HAHA I THOUGHT THIS POST WAS A JOKE! But then I went on the page and saw that…

Just sayin’, fat people dying early is a good thing because it balances out the amount of resources they take up whilst they’re alive.

But yeah, I look forward to the people who wrote that blog’s reactions to their inevitable heart attacks.

I’m reblogging this just so the casual followers of this blog understand that fat discrimination is incredibly serious.

The death wishes are real.

The hate is real.

Propaganda and misinformation about fat people, including the common-wisdom myth that they take up ‘more resources’ than other people (largely promulgated by a back-of-the-envelope calculation filled with wrong assumptions made by some prominent economists a couple of years ago) fuels the hate of the fucks quoted after the OP above.

That’s not to say the fucks above wouldn’t find another reason to hate fat people, or just redirect their hate elsewhere. The point is that the misinformation about fat people, fat hate, and fat discrimination create the climate for honest-to-god existential harm to happen to fat people. 

A recent post was by a young person who said they were required to lose weight before being allowed to graduate from high school. 

Far too many posts on this blog have documented harm done by biased doctors or other healthcare professionals.

Some have documented the death of people, directly caused by fat discrimination.

This is real. 

This is real.

This is real.

"Our bodies as fat women are public bodies, commentated bodies, dehumanised bodies too. We’re not assumed to have the power to articulate our bodies for ourselves, but we are presumed available for others to describe, define and constrict."

— Charlotte Cooper, “Fatphobia, The Outdoors, and Belonging” (via adrowningwoman)

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"If we actually started calling bullying what it is and address it as racism, sexism, homophobia, transphobia, ableism, fat phobia and classism it would actually give children a better way to deal with the very same power dynamics they will face as adults, while also giving adults more responsibility to challenge the intolerance that is rooted within our society overall."

- Amanda Levitt at Fat Body Politics (October 5th, 2012)

Hey! That’s me!

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originalpuck:

sleepydumpling:

  1. “Health” is an arbitrary measure that is personal and private.
  2. There is no moral obligation to be “healthy”.
  3. Fat bodies are not public property to be managed/controlled.
  4. Even “unhealthy” people deserve to live their lives in peace and dignity.
  5. Fatness is not an…

Gosh, yes! I’m so glad you mentioned the bits about how PWDs deserve all of their rights and not to be shamed, too! I am so sick of this idea that since I’m disabled, it must be related to my weight/I should slim down and that would fix it. It won’t, it’s fat-shaming and ableist, and I always vaguely want to punch the people who spout that bullshit.

The groups of fat activists who always talk about how ‘fat isn’t unhealthy and look how healthy I am,’ as if this should make their fatness so much more acceptable, always bother me, too. They make me want to scream at them to stop falling into the traps that fatphobic and ableist people set for them. There isn’t any such thing as the “good fats” or the “bad fats.” There’s just body shaming and ableism (among many of the other problems of the kyriarchy), and they need to stop.

What fat activists do you hang around that say that stuff about fat people? I’m going to guess they are super confused about fat stigma and oppression. 

fatsmartandpretty:

tangledupinlace:

Virgie Tovar’s Guide to Fat Girl Living: Internalized Fatphobia

This is real and important. And really important. 

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Fatphobes: Please Read

thisisthinprivilege:

If you discriminate against and/or hate fat people:

You’re an asshole, period. It doesn’t matter why fat people are fat, whether they’re healthy, what you eat and what you do for exercise and whether you have lost weight, whether the fat people you loathe/discriminate against are your friends, family members, employees, coworkers, spouse, or strangers, whether you have a PhD or MD after your name, or whether you have a national media presence.

There’s no excuse for discriminating against/hating someone for what they look like. Not even if you imagine you’re ‘paying for them.’ No excuse. You’re an asshole. You’re a shitstain. YOU deserve to be hated.

And you will NOT get a platform on this blog. No matter how much you bleat, or how many troll campaigns you wage from your jackoff troll boards.

Fuck you very much.

This. Really if you do this please fuck off.

Whenever I need a good cry I go on OkCupid to be reminded how many men that live close to me are disgusted by my body.

Fuck them.

Financial Aid

thisisthinprivilege:

I was applying for financial aid in my first year of college last year when I got a call saying I was a finalist and would very likely get it because of my grades and community service but they needed a face-to-face interview.

So I went shopping for something professional and “smart” looking to wear to the interview and I spent the day preparing for any answers thy might have had. I was as ready as anyone could have possibly been when I showed up at the financial aid offices.

The first thing the interviewer said was “that’s a very nice outfit you have there…what size is it?” That sort of threw me a little so I responded that I didn’t know because it was in European sizes and I wasn’t sure how to convert it. Even further to my surprise, she offered to look it up online if I could give her the size. I managed to steer the conversation away from this unprecedented (and frankly uncomfortable) topic and back to my application.

She pulled up my credentials on her computer and said “oh, actually, it says here that the department already decided to give it to you. We just wanted to see you in person.” I thought this was weird but I assumed it was just normal procedure. She didn’t seem to have anything else to add so I was just thanking her and getting my purse when she said “you know, the thing about these scholarships is that they come from outside sponsors and even though we’re the ones who decide whom to give them to, the sponsors usually like to meet the recipients in person.” I respond that I would love to meet the sponsors and that they won’t be disappointed. She says “yes, yes. Well, the thing is that you have to portray a certain…image, you understand? They need to see that you’re hardworking and dedicated and can accomplish anything.” I jokingly say “well, hopefully my resume reflects that, right? Because it’s too late to change that now.” She smiles condescendingly and tells me that perhaps there is something I can change with dedication. She asks if I’m aware the school has a gym. Not sure where she’s taking the conversation, I respond that I am and I’ve been there once or twice and it’s very lovely. She says well perhaps I could make time to go there more often because she would like to point me out at the sponsors dinner and say that I’m a person that is dedicated not only in my work but “look at her, she’s so skinny now! That’s dedication!”

At this point, I want nothing more than the flip her the bird and storm out of there, but I need the financial aid. So I spin her a line about how I’ll certainly think about it, but it might be hard if I’m studying so hard and working on my school work and extra-curricular activities in order to maintain my place in such a fine establishment. And then I make a hasty exit.

At the time, I thought that perhaps she was only looking out for my best interests, but then I met my scholarship sponsor (before the dinner and purely by accident) and we got along excellently and she commended me on my grades and so on. She never once mentioned my body or looked at me in any way implying she felt sorry or repulsed by my appearance.

And then I realized that I had almost lost the scholarship even with all the time I had put into becoming a model student, for the sole reason that I wasn’t skinny and the financial aid interviewer couldn’t deal with that. The sponsor certainly didn’t care what I looked like; it all came down to that awful small-minded, mean-spirited woman.

Backhanded Compliment

  • Stranger: You know, you're really pretty for a fat girl.
  • Me: Uhh...thanks?
  • Stranger: What, can't you take a compliment?
  • Me: Not when you imply that being fat means you're no longer pretty.
  • Stranger: I didn't imply anything!
  • Me: You wouldn't like it if I said, "You're really friendly for an asshole," would you?
  • Stranger: *storms off in a huff*

The Top 6 Reasons Why You Should Hate Dan Savage

forgetpolitics:

1. Dan Savage hates trans people and uses transphobic slurs.

“Children have a right to some stability and constancy from the adults in their lives. Perhaps I’m a transphobic bigot, but I honestly think waiting a measly 36 months to cut your dick is a sacrifice any father should be willing to make for his 15-year-old son. Call me old-fashioned.

Unfortunately, your ex wasn’t willing to make that sacrifice (selfish tranny!), or it never occurred to him to make that sacrifice (stupid tranny!)…. If your son can’t deal with having his dad/mom/whatever around right now, support him and tell his dad/mom/whatever to leave the two of you alone for the time being.”

2. Dan Savage believes that bisexuals do not and should not exist.

“I’m not saying bi guys are bad people, or they don’t make great one-night stands. Bushes, bathhouses, and sleazy gay bars are crawling with bi guys. But if a guy wants more, he’ll have an easier time getting it from another gay man.”

3. Dan Savage has admonished women for not putting up with their partner’s sexual desires and has criticized female rape survivors’ stories.

There the guy was, boned for you, and he was brave enough to put his desires out there, to make himself vulnerable (which is what the ladies are always saying they want, right?), and you lobbed the ol’ “What?!?” bomb at him and made him feel like a freak. Is it any wonder that he quickly moved on to “other things” and, one would hope, better sex partners?”

I’m extremely sorry that you were raped, DRARS, although your baseless accusations of rape make me doubt you when you claim to be a survivor of rape. The feminist bloggers are going to accuse me of thought crimes: If a woman says she was raped then, by God, she was raped. (Tell it to the lacrosse team.) But if my reaction to your letter is a thought crime, I can only plead entrapment: I wouldn’t have had these illegal thoughts if you hadn’t sent me such a stupid letter in the first place… Finally, DRARS, I hereby withdraw my consent for you to read Savage Love. If you continue to read my column against my will, well, we all know what word to apply to your actions.”

4. Dan Savage thinks that racist gay white men are less of a threat to African-Americans than homophobic African-Americans are to gay people.

EDIT: The quote below is indeed Dan’s response to Prop 8 and black homophobia, I have added some more of the senseless shit that has spewed out of his mouth so that no one will be confused as to how much of an asshole he is:

“I do know this, though: I’m done pretending that the handful of racist gay white men out there—and they’re out there, and I think they’re scum—are a bigger problem for African Americans, gay and straight, than the huge numbers of homophobic African Americans are for gay Americans, whatever their color…I’ll eat my shorts if gay and lesbian voters went for McCain at anything approaching the rate that black voters went for Prop 8.”

EDIT: Here are some more lovely gems from our resident asshole Dan Savage on his rampant hatred for everything not white, male, and gay:

5. Dan Savage thinks asexuals are secretly “fags”.

“I appreciate the feedback, Stephanie, and I’m sorry I offended you. But… um… I couldn’t help but think, as I read your letter, that your boyfriend is either a fool or a fag. But if it works for you guys—if a romantic relationship devoid of sexual attraction and activity works for you guys—then it works for you guys. Who am I to argue with success?”

6. Dan Savage is fatphobic.

“First off, LARDASS, you neglected to include a sign-off, forcing me to create one for you. I tried to create one that captured the spirit and tone of your letter, and I think I did pretty well… I am thoroughly annoyed at having my tame statements of fact—being heavy is a health risk; rolls of exposed flesh are unsightly—characterized as ‘hate speech.’”

EDIT: I’ve got a lot of requests for citations, so here they are. They get even worse, believe me — the sexual kink that Savage admonishes the woman for was because he believed it was totally ok for her boyfriend wanting to put his nutsack into her vagina. Because that is a totally unsurprising sexual desire to request for.

TRIGGER WARNING: These articles contain transphobic comments/slurs, victim-blaming, racism, hatred of all kinds and colors

1. Transphobia

2. Biphobia (Here’s another where he basically blames Bisexuals for their own oppression….yeah.)

3. Sexism (kink) / Sexism (victim-blaming)

4. Racism & Prop 8 (Here’s another bullshit article he did on the same topic)

5. Acephobia

6. Fat-shaming (Here’s a rant where he says that Iowa should ban fat marriage instead of banning gay marriage because that totally makes more sense)

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